Bondage isn't all whips, chains and medieval torture. Or is it?

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"Bondage" covers a very wide spectrum of sex acts, and can mean something different to every person. Whatever it is, as long as you both agree on the boundaries, anything goes. From the tame to the extreme. We are all curios about this subject from one level to another, or you wouldn't be reading right now, so let’s get started.

Bondage is for everyone. Sex tips from My Pleasure Box

Safety First - Although it's often more tempting to play sex games when you're feeling a bit tipsy, it's best not to try bondage when you're under the influence alcohol or drugs, as you might misjudge how tightly to tie the knots. Make sure that you keep a pair of scissors nearby, so that you can release your partner quickly if the need arises. Similarly, if you're using handcuffs, keep two sets of handcuff keys nearby (it's always best to have a spare just in case you lose the first set).

Intro to Bondage

Light bondage
Handcuffs are a relatively common tool in the bedroom, but you can be as creative as you like. Scarves, panties and of course sexy stockings are all considered a good starting point when it comes to restraints. Start off slow and you can bring the erotica of bondage to your bedroom.

Anal sex
Some of the more adventurous couples have already experimented with this, but it can be tricky to determine if your partner is interested in giving it a try. Some have tried to put their partner on the spot and push them past there comfort zone, bringing up the possibility when already locked in the middle of a passionate sexual excursion, but it’s both disrespectful and a tad manipulative. The time to bring it up is during a light foreplay session, when the thoughts of their impending pleasure are beginning to cascade through their head. They won’t feel bad about rejecting the idea and they will still be in the right position to accept it, if so inclined.

No not missionary again!
It’s one of the single biggest complaints partners have, and even though it depicts there significant other in a less-than-rosy light, it’s still true: Sometimes they just aren't imaginative enough in the bedroom. They have their favorite position and they’ll occasionally mix it up every now and then, but it’s not enough to keep their partners on their toes; it’s not enough to keep them guessing; it’s not enough to push them past their comfort zone and into unknown territory. Get a copy of the Kama Sutra. Do some research, and the next time you two drop to the bed, prepare to introduce a good half-dozen positions they are not expecting. And watch what happens...

Moderate Bondage

Toys
Too many couples believe that toys are restricted to solo performances, but you may be surprised to learn that some would like you to experiment a bit with their toys. When the two of you are together, and you’re aware of the little stash, perhaps you could bring up the idea of introducing the items into your foreplay session. Some will really get off on having their own toys used on them, and it’s a relatively easy subject to broach. Nobody can really get hurt, your partner likely won’t take offense to the suggestion and if they are not into it, a simple “no” isn't exactly embarrassing.

Sex in public
The majority of couples really embrace the risk; the age-old concept of “danger is sexy” continues to resonate with adults, regardless of age or era. When a woman is asked: “What’s the wildest thing you've ever done?” a common answer involves sex in a public area, and the greater the risk of getting caught, the hotter it was. It’s all about spontaneity; some will be impressed if you nab them during a long flight or push them into a spare bedroom during a party. Just remember, if they’re not into it, you need to abandon the idea immediately.

Videotape the fun
In the age of technology, more and more people are starting to tape their sexual encounters. If you’re afraid of the video getting into the wrong hands, setup the camera to only display the action on a TV and not actually record it. Some people are very much against the idea, so don’t be some creeper and hide a camera for your own pleasure. That’s slimy with a capital “S.” However, some people say that a camera can really expand on and push them past there comfort zone, and sometimes, they’re not sure how they’ll behave. If you’re convinced your partner is into it, offer to break out the camera. But at least try to keep it under wraps, ok?

To the Extreme

Threesome
We did say extreme. Bringing a new person into the mix can be mind-blowing. A threesome will definitely expose you to all kind of new things. This is the type of wild experience that can open new doors but can also open a giant can of worms if things go awry; therefore, it’s best to solidify the ground rules before embarking. If both of you give the green light, though, you may see your partner smash through so-called boundaries with reckless abandon. So tread lightly or make sure you at least have a big stick ;)

Get them into the dominatrix role
Everyone loves control. They can dance around it all they like, but deep down, they’re partial to having a firm grasp on things, and if they’re willing to take it to a new level, you might be the sex slave for a night. A normally timid partner acting as a dominatrix can get this glazed, dangerous look in their eye, and at that point you'll realize that you are going on a mind-blowing roller-coaster ride. Even though it’d be erroneous to assume that everyone would be down for this, it’d also be a mistake to think that an especially brash partner wouldn't go absolutely wild when faced with a good amount of leather.

If you’re not willing to take chances in your sex life, you may just be in for a long stretch of nights related to chapters in the book Sex Ed for Dummies. Don’t be the master of missionary, grab some new sex toys to bring your experiences to the next level. We hope you enjoyed this article. If you know anyone else that would gain a better understanding of bondage, feel free to share this article to everyone.


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