If you've been with your partner and remember doing the electric slide together at someones wedding, there's a not-so-low chance that spicing things up in the bedroom sounds like a good idea. But if you feel as though you've tried it all, a little refresher course might be in order. And is it weird to feel as though you've dried up on the idea front?
Couples can struggle with how often to have sex, and what to do when they're in bed together. Couples sometimes make love to express love, and it can be tender or sweet, and sometimes they are just going through the motions, because they feel like they 'should' be having sex. Here are 5 ways to keep your sex life HOT and more than just a motion you 'should' be going through.
Who is usually in control in bed? If you don't want to change that up, who usually seduces, and who is usually seduced? Change it up, no matter how hard its to let your partner take control, you will love it.
You can always go the route of Bondage & Restraints. Using toys like this can bring the power swap to new levels. Learn to take control and let go.
Hear, Smell and Taste
Your sense of smell is a good place to start, since smell can be highly erotic. What is your partner's smell? Notice it, and focus on it. You can even bring extra sensuality into the sexual experience by using things that smell, taste or feel good. Light candles, play music, notice your partner's breath or heartbeat. Have a sensual picnic where you explore different textures and tastes together. Once you are in the habit of noticing your senses, titillating your senses will heighten your sexual experience.
Touch Yourself Again
When we were younger we loved to explore our own bodies, as we age we don't make the time or find the time to do this anymore. To keep things golden in bed, it's not just about sex with your partner. Touching yourself for pleasure will keep you connected to what feels good for your body. You will engage with your pleasure, get more comfortable with your body, and also connect to your arousal. All of those things will also benefit your partnered sex. And you can always talk about this with your partner to bring a new level of intimacy into play with some adult toys.
Don't Be Naked and Afraid
Forget pajamas. Removing your clothes removes one more barrier to sex. Not only will you notice your partner's body if you snuggle up together during the night, you will be more comfortable with your own body too. If this inspires the two of you and leads to something more, great; if not, you're still super snuggly.
If you need to wear something, grab some beautiful lingerie.
Toys, Toys, and More Toys
Now that your childhood store Toys R' Us is gone, it's time to move into the Adult Toy world. Find yourself a new cock ring to extend your pleasure, how about something high tech like a new vibrator. There are over ten thousand toys and accessories to explore, now get out there and find something new.
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