A Beginners Guide To Sex Positions, Safe Sex, and Taboo Sex

Posted by Anida Leeds

Why wait for the good stuff, lets jump right in and poke around and see what we find. People with closed minds only make taboos. No one has the right to tell you what you can and can not do with your own body.

If this were true everyone would be walking around like Arnold (Terminator Days). So when it comes to sex use that same mentality. If it feels good, do it, if it doesn't feel right STOP. Sexual activity should bring pleasure and enjoyment, not discomfort and severe pain.

Taboo Sex for Beginners

Anal Sex: Embracing Desire and Breaking Taboos

Whether or not we’re aware of it, most of us are a little butt-shy. Taboos around sexuality and misinformation about anal play can inhibit some people from expressing their desire for butt stuff. Common misconceptions about anal exploration include concerns around pain, hygiene, or implications about someone’s sexuality. You and your sexual partners will learn to decide the type of sex that excites.

Does Anal Sex Hurt?

If you play safely and follow a few tips for anal play, it shouldn’t hurt. Remember that anal sex mantra of communication, relaxation, and lubrication to help minimize any pain associated with anal. Stay away from numbing agents such as lubes containing lidocaine or benzocaine, which take away sensation wherever they’re applied. Besides numbing your pain receptors so your body can’t warn you if you are getting hurt, they also inhibit you from feeling the pleasurable sensation anal play can provide.

Is Anal Sex Messy?

Anal doesn’t have to be messy, but sex isn’t 100% tidy, either. Personal hygiene, douching, and staying well hydrated can help minimize the likelihood of getting messy during play. Safer sex supplies such as condoms can also make clean up a lot easier.

Why Do People Like Anal?

Many people like anal play because it feels incredible! When aroused, blood rushes to all of our erogenous zones and makes them engorged or erect, more sensitive to touch, and more receptive of stimulation. The same is true for your butt. When you’re warming up for anal play, engage other parts of your body including your imagination, all of your senses, and your skin.

Try not to be goal orientated with anal. Not all sex needs to rush towards an orgasm to be hot. The experience of getting aroused and feeling all of the pleasurable sensations can be the sexiest part of your anal journey.

What Are Some Other Positions I Can Try?

Missionary: Climb on Top and Slide it In Face to Face. When you’re in Missionary, lift your feet off the bed and pull your knees into your chest. You can do this while he’s inside of you or before he penetrates you.

As he pushes in and out of you, let your hips rock back and forth. For a little more clitoral stimulation try the Dominant Missionary position.

Doggy Style, Bend Over and Touch Your Toes: Not literally but rest your body on your bed or over the couch armrest if padded. The person doing the penetration places their body between your legs and enters you. You’re pretty much along for the ride with this one, and they get to thrust away to their heart’s content! A bent over formation is a comfortable position because it doesn’t require them to hold up their body weight with their arms.

Cowboy or Cowgirl: Have him lie on his back. Crawl on top of him, resting one leg on either side of his body take his penis in your hand and slowly lower yourself down onto it. Girl on top can be a commanding position, to begin with, if you’re not very wet, so you may want to start with another position first or use some additional lubricant.

What Kind of Lubricant Should I Use?

If you’re new to lubricants, definitely start with a water-based formula. You will find that this type is lightweight, doesn’t get sticky, washes away easily and most closely matches your natural lubrication. A water-based lubricant may not last as long as other formulas, but it won’t stain your sheets or leave a big mess.

If slippery is more your speed, you might want to try out a silicone lube. Silicone-based formulas are thicker, last longer, and are great for water play—but be aware that these are not as safe to use with other products. While they do work with (most) latex condoms, be careful when using them with your favorite silicone sex toys (the silicone breaks down the toy’s materials and can cause severe damage).

Lately, social media has been touting the benefits of natural lubricants like coconut oil. This trend may seem like a “healthy” alternative to silicone products because they’re organic and made from natural ingredients, but oil-based lubricants don’t work for everyone. The natural sugars can disrupt your vaginal pH-balance, sometimes leading to irritation, and they are not latex- or sex toy-safe. My favorite option for a water-based lubricant is 

Safe Sex!

Think you're having safe sex? Think again. You might be leaving yourself at risk even if you're using condoms, taking birth control pills, opting for an IUD or also not having intercourse at all, any sexual contact, skin to skin contact can increase the risk of a sexually transmitted disease. Everyone should practice safe sexual health.

You are pulling out when he ejaculates to be extra careful? There's sperm in the pre-ejaculate that slips out of his member and into your vagina during sex, so you can still get pregnant. Not to mention, if his sperm is deposited right outside your vagina, those sperms can swim and even cause pregnancy. Best to use a condom regardless.

Double Bagging is looking for Double Trouble. Condoms were designed to be used one at a time. After Sex What Should We Do or Shouldn’t We Do? Is an informative article and will dive deeper into getting your sex life off to a healthy start.

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